Someone Else's Junk Mail...

Today, i read an Email which i received last week. (This is how busy i am. Not with dating but with work.) She mentioned that it has been sometime since she last believed in such JUNK. By now, this 'she' that i am about to talk about should realise who she is. And most probably the 40-60 people whom she had forwarded the mail to will realise too. That's if they read my blog. Ha..

It makes me wonder, if it's junk to one, then why send it? Or even worse. Forward it to 40 over people.

Ok. I am digressing. I am not so much angry with the 'junk' mail but more so with the contents that it had. Therefore, let me quote the mail.

'...distance does make hearts flounder'.
I wouldn't very much say it isn't true but it is dependent on the maturity of the person's mind. Obviously this character in the mail isn't mature enough. Thus allowing distance to become a problem in the relationship. Even if there is little or no distance to talk about, some people still have a problem with distance. And in this case, it will not be the physical difference but more of being there. Which then brings me to my next point.

'When relationships go wrong, the list of things given and done for the person usually crops up. We say, "I have given you this and that... I have done these things for you."?It seems that love is simply proven by the bestowal of gifts and favors. But while presents are important, love demands what is basic: Presence of the beloved'.'
Once again, i can't totally agree with this paragraph. Even with the presence of the beloved, a relationship will still go wrong. Why? Let me enlighten you guys. (Haha..) Firstly, you HAVE to be that person's beloved and remain as such. Secondly, it all boils down to maturity. A mature mind will know why they're apart. Why they can't meet often. Why one party has to try very hard to keep to the meeting time. These are often job related issues. So, let me once again emphasize on the need for partners to have mature and mutual understandings. Careers and partners need not necessarily stay as the prioritised. So much so to the extend of family and friends.

But there is something which i agree with in the Email.
'Being there for someone need not necessary mean having to say a lot. Words are sometimes redundant. Remember that 'presence' (to be there for someone) is more than enough.'
Which explains why i am always fine with just staying on the other side of the line while both me and my dear lil one carry on with our our own stuff. Usually i will be the one dozing off if i have nothing to do. Hee..

I have a sudden realisation that this is entry is somewhat like a circular arguement. Just like the question with the chicken and egg. But still, i have to strongly state that it is a matter of maturity.